My feelings right now: frustrated.
This is what I see a lot of the time… ^ Funny, cute, yes, but in reality of the situation, nope, not at all.
I am currently experiencing deep feelings of frustration. As a man, I examine the men of society, or should I say boys. My confession is, I can’t stand boys. Before I go on though, don’t get me wrong. I love boys who are boys because they’re young and are still in the process of growing. Them I do not mind. In fact, they are still immature and I don’t blame them. They’re still at that age. My frustration lies in the adolescent boys who are supposed to be men. You, who read this, I know you can sympathize with my notions and even feel strikingly similar emotions. The men of this generation refuse to grow up! The immaturity and opposition to being responsible makes me so frustrated and even angry.
Leaders, arise! You, a man, should mark the way for our future. Do you not know the power you carry in your words and in your actions. The potential that lies in a deep slumber must be awakened. The fleeting nature of your entertainment will only promote a culture where men follow and women lead. You enjoy your time now, but what could occur in your time to come will never be revealed. The purpose that lies in your life will never be even peeked into. If only, you could understand a glimpse of what you were called to be.
You were called to be a servant-leader that would serve women and honor and respect them. Leading by example, you were called to be a man of conviction, a man of passion and determination, a man with clear purpose and drive, a man who holds to his word, a man who is unwavering, a man who knows what’s best and acts on them, a man who loves selflessly, a man who is called to lead this wicked generation into a lifestyle of holiness, purity, and love! You are to be feared because of how you stand apart from this world. You were called to be a man who people will respect and honor you because of your convictions. But you, men, fail miserably: myself included. We, fail. I’m tired of you and tired of me not being those men. I am close (though I do not speak pompously of myself and do not intend to, for I am a man with many problems and in constant need of His grace) and others are so far. I know what I need, but men right now, I speak on your behalf…Grow up already! Stop thinking like a dependent boy and be a prudent man of God.
Women, I know we fail as men as a whole. We fail to lead and serve you. We fail to respect you and honor you as equals and I apologize on behalf of us, but I have things to request of you too. Though I wish I had not need to ask this of you, I ask this one thing. Encourage us to be those men. We need it. See what we do not correctly do and correct us. Encourage us to be leaders by presenting us with opportunities to lead. Don’t let us push you around and stand up for what you believe in.
I warn you, women. Do not encourage us to be boys. I despise this practice with deep passion. I know you do not intend to, but do not be leaders for us. If you do, pride as men will be hurt and we will no longer search for reason to be, well, a leader. I know we fail to, but whenever you get the chance, push us to be leaders however you can. Guide us to respected men of God to be discipled by. Encourage men of God to encourage the younger boys to be men. Stress the importance.
Let me share some things I learned at my Bible study last week. Our prayer concerned much about us treating women as women and not objects of affection. Together, we sought out practical ways to guard your hearts. One of those things, was to not allow the possibility of a woman clinging to us through the sharing of personal spiritual matters.
Now, if you aren’t a born-again Christian, and you see a man of God, you will be drawn to his passion and charisma for the Lord. To see an upright man know where he stands in life will attract you. Next thing you know, you may unknowingly disclose your personal life with him in hopes of one, being closer to him, or two, just wanting his wisdom and counsel. For most, I will say it will be because you may like him. Now, if you’re a woman who knows the Lord and needs a man to lead you, you will love those men of God that are few in this society. If you love the Lord, you will love a man who loves the Lord. Simple fact. But you may not be ready and you may be a little desperate for a relationship. You may still struggle with problems and may seek a strong man to help you. And us, as men, who like to be needed and who enjoy the attention may fall for it and guide you and teach you and pray with you. These, though, not wrong in themselves, are not good. If we truly care for you, the resolution was to guide these troubled women to women of God whom we respect to counsel them and pray with them emotions all aside. You won’t like us and we won’t be tempted to deceive you and manipulate you. We won’t have a chance to break your heart intentionally or unintentionally. That is a safeguard for you. You don’t need us, until you have a strong relationship with the Lord. You need strong women of God to guide you and be examples for you.
Flip side: women, don’t be counseling us either. Guard our hearts too. Be strong in resolution to stand for what you believe in. There are boys out there who want help, but don’t be the one to be that help. It is not your duty and if you want them to grow up and be men, stop giving them advice. By giving advice, you serve as a spiritual leader and encourage boys to be boys. Now, once in a while, some spiritual advice from a woman of God is to be respected and taken into account. They have life experience and the Lord to teach them hard, foundational truths that can help us in specific situations.
Guide the boys to men. Don’t feel like you have to be the one to help them because they have no one else. Your biggest contribution to us is your prayers. I appreciate them and as a man, I am thankful for your prayers for boys to be men of God. We all need it a lot. Look at this world, if you feel we don’t. If we aren’t strong in our conviction and it’s hindering us, be the one to be set on a conviction and tell us to be convicted. If we are weak, tell us to get over it and be strong. Don’t question us or guide us into us understanding what we need to do. If we are weak, which there are many, tell us what to do and be done with it.
Don’t baby us. We don’t need it, unless you want us to seek a woman for help when trouble comes, so we can be emotionally invested and depend on you for advice and help and so you can help this generation be marked with bunches of boys… Don’t be unaware of the dangers. Be perceptive and look around. I need your help for boys to be men today. Don’t delay. Be an active part in this for His sake please.
For you, I pray, I ask for you to be a part in this, for wisdom as a woman, and for you to be one set on conviction to make a difference today. Don’t lead if you don’t want to be a leader.
Feeling: frustrated. Lord, help me to turn these thoughts into powerful prayers for the boys who need to grow up! Jesus, do something, because I can’t do anything. Only Your power can change this generation of immature boys into grown, mature, responsible, men of God who are upright, passionate, pure, servant-leaders for the future! Ah…